Davide Butson-Fiori

I am pregnant

It's official I am going to be a father, the surrogate is pregnant with my child. I found out Sunday the 29th of March at 3pm. It was a very exciting moment when I heard that she was pregnant, I now will wait another week till I find out how many embryo's have taken.

I will post more tomorrow I am now off to bed and digest what exactly happened today, thanks to everyone for all the love.

I AM GOING TO BE A DAD!!!!!!!! IT'S OFFICIAL

Still Praying, Still concerned, Still hopeful

Two days and counting, March 29th will be the pregnancy test. And I will know if I am to be a dad and be holding my child in my arms at the end of the year, so, I pray. This past week has not been easy, not just the worrying and the waiting for the pregnancy test. I came down with a serious case of food poisoning on Tuesday night, and I lay in a pool of my own sweat with cramps and a fever a flash of my future flooded over me. Picture it, I am in that state on the floor and an infant is crying for a feeding, a changing etc. Well, I did, and I panicked, how the hell will I cope?

Most of the parents I spoke to about this said very calmly to me, you will just do what needs to be done. Your pain and own sickness will not matter, you will just cope. From this illness I had a brief glimpse into what could be, and I must say I was worried. I will have the comfort of knowing I will have full time help, so in time of stress there will be someone there for me. I also have a great group of friends that will pitch in, both of these factors will allow me to sleep a little better before the bundle of joy arrives.

So now with the panicking underway, everything that could be done has been done. And it comes down to these two final days, I will spend them like I've spent the past year. Hoping and praying and counting down till I get that call I have been waiting a lifetime for, until then...all my love to everyone for your continuing support.

Surrogates Have been Implanted

THE PROCESS FOR CREATING MY FAMILY

1. I supply sperm

2. Egg donor from the USA provides eggs (13 to be exact)

3. Doctor performs IVF, fertilization of the eggs to create embryo's

4. Surrogates are implanted with three embryo's each. I am using two Indian 

    Surrogates to double my chances of a pregnancy.

5. I then wait for two weeks for the results MARCH 26th.

6. Remaining embryo's are frozen for future use.

UPDATE: March 11, 2009 is the date that two surrogates in Hyderabad India were implanted with embryo's with my DNA, I now have 14 days to wait for a pregnancy result. The chances of conceiving is 30% for each surrogate, I am using two surrogates to double my chances. So it will be a 60% chance of a pregnancy, and the doctor said that because the eggs were so good and the high quality of the sperm, my chances were even a bit better.

All in all, there were 13 eggs retrieved from the donor. The eggs were then fertilized by injecting a single good sperm into each egg, the eggs were then put in an incubator and once splitting into eight cells they were then chosen for implantation. The remaining embryo's will be frozen in case I will need another round to become pregnant, my chances are very good that I will not need to start all over from scratch. 

I am not one to believe in luck or fate, however a few numbers to ponder. We retrieved the eggs on the 8th of March, the number 8 is very lucky and auspicious in Chinese culture. There were 13 eggs, the number 13 is very lucky in tattoo culture. And I must say I am probably one of the luckiest people I know, it seems that things just seem to go my way. Even in the darkest of times there always seems to be a bright spot, I hope this doesn't jinx me. But I will continue to believe everything will happen just as it should, with a prayer and some super glued crossed fingers, I wait.

Again I have to say, THANK YOU to everyone out there with kind words and a hopeful prayer. You are much appreciated by this single man in Hong Kong praying for a pregnancy in India, thinking of his family and friends in the USA. Hillary said it takes a village and my village is truly a global one, I love you all.

Be well and I will update soon.

Sperm, eggs, embryo's ...oh my

I am finding it hard top describe how I am feeling, it is all so unbelievable. The eggs have been retrieved, the sperm is fantastic and the implantation will take place on Wednesday. I will be returning to Hong Kong on Tuesday, and still not sure if I will be able to put down in words how I am feeling. I am out of breath, find it hard to sleep and generally a bundle of nerves.

I can't express all the love I am feeling from everyone involved here in India, it's as if I am family, the love is certainly there and I am forever grateful for that. I will go on about this more in my next entry, I am still taking it all in and will be able to express and share with you my entire journey here in the city of Pearls.

Just a quick update to whet your appetite,i will know in 18 days if I am to be a father. THE COUNTDOWN BEGINS

Off to India

Here we are on the day I am to go to India, I will be leaving in a few hours and am nervous and excited. A lot of you have sent me well wishes these past few days and yesterday I received a slew of sms's, thanks again for all your support. I will begin a video diary of the process, this step is to me just the beginning. 

This is the actual first step to becoming the father I have dreamt of being all my life, here I am at 44 and embarking on this huge adventure. I thought about this recently, I have felt these past few years that a part of my life was over, finished so to speak. Like a chapter of a book coming to a close, or like the first book in a series. I thought that the life I lead before was exciting and a whirlwind, however I started to think what would be next? I couldn't imagine what that future would be like, it definitely felt like something had ended.

I think I finally realized what that next book in the series would be, it will be "the Father". I've been the son, the teenager, the aspiring performer, the dancer, the designer, the traveler, the adventurist, the lover and the egoist. I must say though that this chapter has been a desire held for a very long time and here I am. I could never go back to what I was, I really didn't want to even if I could. This will literally be the first day of the rest  of my life and a role that I have prepared a lifetime for. I am confident that this will be the best of all the chapters. And I look forward to sharing it with all of you.

Here I go off to write the first pages of the next part of my already amazing life, a life that would not have been possible without all the people who have been a part of my life. You all know who you are, my family, my friends and my friends that are my family. You have all touched me and made me who I am, I am a richer person inside for knowing all of you. All my love ....

Davide