Davide Butson-Fiori

I'm going in, that is I'm going to India on March 4th

Well its all set, the egg donor has arrived in India and is on the medication to help her produce multiple eggs. I am set to fly to India on March 4th only six days away, time flies and I am now here ready to go. I have been having a number of emotions fill me these past few weeks, waking up in the middle of the night panicking. I have been asking myself if this is something I can do, will I be a good parent?, will I have learned something these past forty some years to pass on to a child that wont permanently scare them?

I ask myself if I am doing this for the right reasons, and I must say it all comes down to a deep desire that I have always had to have a child, for whatever reasons, there it is, a desire, a dream, and now an ever approaching possibility. I say possibility because I am not yet pregnant, so I am still a bit apprehensive to say a definite, however, it looks pretty damn close. That is probably why I am thinking so much of the good and the bad.

So, I will keep positive, I know I am doing this for the right reasons, that is "my reasons" and I am very hopeful that I will do a great job, or the best I can. I want to thank all of my family and friends for their undying support, not one of you has said to me I must be crazy and that inspires me forward. 

Soon I will be on a wing and a prayer, wish me luck.

Wheels are in motion, next step IVF treatment in India

As most of my loyal readers know, I have the required sperm to now procreate. The next step will be the egg donor from the USA to fly to India for egg retrieval, the scheduled date for the flight to India will be the 20th of February. Just two weeks away, amazing that eight months ago I figured this day would never come.

The plan is this; the egg donor arrives in India on the 20th of January, she goes on fertility medication to produce multiple eggs. Approximately ten days later I will fly to India to the provide the sperm for fertilization of the eggs, and in five days after the embryo's start to divide they will be implanted into the surrogate that lives in India and will carry the child to term. The next few steps will be a waiting game, about 18 days later I will know if there is a pregnancy, a few weeks later a heart beat, then gender etc.

So if all goes as planned a new born will be born in mid to late December 2009, this will be perfect for me because it will give me some time to be with my child. Because of the number of holidays around this time I will be able to take advantage of the extra time with my added vacation days, extending the mere two days of paternal leave alloted for fathers of newborns.

So in summary, Im off to India the first week of March and will know if there is a pregnancy by the end of March. This will be a fabulous birthday present to myself, my birthday is April 16th. Cause for great celebration.

Thanks again to everyone for their ongoing support, I love you all.